About a week ago -during lunch time- me and some of the gals had this conversation about our colleagues wedding ceremony. 2 different wedding with 2 different ceremony except for the part where it was held according to Islamic way, since both of them are Muslim.
What makes it different with them is that one of them adding traditional ceremony after the akad. The bride's parent are from West Java (Sundanese) while the groom's parent from Bali (Balinese). Each parents want a bit of traditional (cultural) ceremony for the wedding. While my other friend, other than akad, she just having a small party at restaurant.
For your information, here in my country, every province has it's own ceremony for almost every step of someone's life. The name might be different for each province and the procession too but in general, the meaning is the same.
As the conversation continues, we agrees that (at present) most of the wedding which held by adding the traditional procession, mostly because of our parents and all the generation above us wanted that way. In the name of tradition, family values, pride, they held that long and (quite) expensive ceremony. Those who got the financial ability really held each step with no exception. While the other just having some part which they think as the most essential.
Nowadays young people seems don't really care. Is it? Well.. not exactly that way. Some of my friend just skip it simply because the want the marriage to be practice and as efficient as possible (and cheaper off course). While the others have deeper reason who relation with religion issues. Such as, those ceremony are not something that taught by our religion. It's just a culture and not part of what the Holy Qur'an taught us.
I never been married but yet I already talk to my mom about what I want in my wedding. Quite a long talk, but finally we agreed on something. Alhamdulillah.
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